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Our Greatest Need: What Is It?
First presented in a public seminar at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, New York City.

Aesthetic Realism logically, beautifully makes clear that a woman's greatest need is to like the world and see meaning in it. Like many people, I felt that to really need anything was weak, and I should depend only on myself.

This attitude can have us feel we don't have to listen to another person; we don't need to read books; we don't have to learn new things

This is contempt, defined by Eli Siegel as "the addition to self through the lessening of something else," and it is the thing which stifles and hurts us, and makes us mean, and it is what I so much needed to know as I grew up in the 1960s.

 

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Introduction
The Confusion about Need in a Girl on Long Island
Can We Be Proud to Need Someone?
What Do Women's Magazines Encourage Women to Need?
Aesthetics: What a Woman Needs Most